You know who this message is for

Apr 23

I know you are in a tremendous amount of pain.

I know you intend to either lash out on me with anger because I have chosen to end this relationship, or you are going to come at me with tears and project guilt. It’s the pattern of behavior you have been practicing with me for 10 years. It’s manipulation.

I struggled with confidence and self-esteem after my divorce and after losing my job, and throughout the 10 years we were together. But after I quit drinking and started to study spirituality and emotional intelligence, my confidence is strong again.

But when I am with you, I am not allowed a chance to be proud of myself, or my accomplishments. It holds me in an energy of settling for less. It doesn’t allow me to get into my creative space. It keeps me small and unconfident. But in reality, I have overcome massive challenges and I deserve to be celebrated. I deserve to be in an energy where I thrive as the intelligent, confident, strong, motivated person that I truly am.

I am not going to be in a relationship in 2025., and I am not going to put energy into that. My energy is focused on a deeper level of healing.

If you still choose to disrespect my decision and approach me, I will allow you to say what you need to say. Then I will tell you the same thing again. I am not continuing in this relationship and we are no longer speaking. I have made my decision and it’s final. Coming at me with chaos or guilt or conflict, gets in my way. It holds me back and delays my success. But if we still need to do this one more time, ok. It’s still going to be the same answer. No.

I realize now that I was settling. I am not doing that anymore, I am reaching for more. I am expecting more from my life now.

Moving forward, I am putting my energy into my girls, my career and my spirituality. I am not getting caught up in relationships in 2025.

You are in a tremendous amount of pain right now because of the stories you are creating in your head. You are not entitled to show anger towards me because I am choosing a decision that is right for me. You are not justified in your actions to project shame and guilt onto me, for making a decision that is healthy for me.

You are not healthy for me. You are not on my level maturity-wise. I am really, really smart. I am not saying that in a boastful way. It’s a fact. I dim my light for a lot of people because I am so intelligent. Not a lot of people can jive with me on my level. I spend most of my life dimming my light to make people feel comfortable.

I’m tired of dimming my light and acting like I am not intelligent, in order to fit in.

I’m not dimming my light anymore.

I’ve thought about this a lot. I’m not doing this anymore.

I’ve taken a good, hard look at my life, and I am letting go of the things that expect me to dim my light. I was settling. And I have so much potential.

I can walk alone and hold my light. I can be alone and be happy.

You are attempting to block me from the path my heart wants to go down. My heart knows the way. Your head does not know the way for me. Your head is the devil, it’s fear, it’s blocking me.

I see it clearly now.

The answer is no. I am not settling. You are not good for me. You are going to block me from my heart’s true desires.

I trust my heart. I’ve outgrown this relationship.

I know you have been holding me back for awhile now.

The living environment is toxic and it is blocking me from shining and being at peace. Living with you makes my life difficult. Your room is very loud, your dog is loud and your voice gets loud. I can’t do my work in your living space, and I always feel like I need to escape when I am there. And it’s not good for me.

So I’m not settling for less. I’m not allowing your sadness or guilt to get in the way of my true life’s purpose.

You will find your way. You will heal in time. And you will follow your soul’s path also.

You are not healthy for me.

Understand and accept it, and stop trying to dim my light. That impacts Mia and Hanna. Stop. You have the resources to move past it and heal it. Trying to make me feel guilty for making a decision that is right for me? Trying to paint me as a whore? Trying to paint yourself as the victim? STOP!!!!! You are only going to keep YOURSELF in a low vibration and bring more of that into your life. Move away from this, and step into your true life’s purpose and partner.

We will not speak again AZ. The situation is intolerable for me and I am making changes to put myself on the right path.

Do as you do. Make this about you. Make up lies I am leaving you for another. Bring it. I’m ready. And you already know my answer. I’m brave and confident and clear in my decision. I’m not interested in a relationship for the rest of 2025.

Skip the movie tonight. Watch this video below from beginning to end. Then let go of the stories you are repeating in your head about me. I have no interest in a relationship right now. 0, Not with you. Not with anyone. I’m good alone so I can recover my finances and my career. The last 10 years killed it and I have some work to do to rebuild.

Please don’t approach me or try to contact me, or try to access me again. Be empathetic and understand I have set a firm boundary that I do NOT want you to cross.

I am going to live my life and wish you well. Not going to think about it. If you don’t want to let it go, ok.

In reality, this is the end. I am not leaving you for another. I am leaving you for myself, so I can follow my true soul’s calling.

Sending you love and light. I wish you well on your soul’s true journey and path.

We will not speak again.

This is a peaceful ending.

Be well.

Aloha~